Stop committing apologicide now! (Pt. 1)

(This is Part 1 of a two part series entitled How NOT To Apologize To Someone.)

In your commitment to writing messages by hand you may soon find that not all of your notes are of a cheerful nature.

One instance of this would be writing an apology.

Apologizing for your words and actions is humbling, even humiliating. Sometimes we can be prone to allowing our pride to take over.

Consider the following: “I’m sorry I called you a fluff nut yesterday, but I couldn’t help it when you spilled the Kool-aid on my new rug.”

Uhhhh…do you see what’s wrong there? “I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry because I think my behavior was justifiable in light of your poor behavior.”

That’s not apologizing, Chuckles. Your apology is always negated as soon as you utter the word “but”, start to make any sly defense for your behavior, or begin pointing out the other person’s errors.

An apology should always focus on the hurt you have caused the other person and your restitution for that hurt. It should never devolve into a blaming session.

But what if the other person did do something idiotic that caused you to pop off?

Well, you’ll have to wait until the post after next to read my answer to that question, my duck.

For right now, make a point to stop justifying yourself when apologizing to others. It’s apologicide.

You can find some nice cards to write your apologies in at the link below:

https://gracearant.com/product-category/all-cards/just-because-cards/

To your card giving,

Grace Arant